Thanks Atlantis and to your friend. I am sure this is going to be a very difficult time for them and yet it will be freeing. We are here for your friend and we all appreciate what he did to expose the WTS.
Aunt Fancy
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The Last BOE!
by Atlantis inthis is the last boe we will be able to provide.
our informant or source, was caught, disfellowshipped, and thrown out of bethel.
we knew that sooner or later the watchtower would find him out.
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Please...I need your help
by Strawberryfieldsforever inmy heart is heavy as i write this letter.
i have been trying to live my life as best that i can since leaving jehovah's witnesses.
my dad was not a witness and was my rock when i left the religion.
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Aunt Fancy
Strawberry, If you haven't read Steven Hassen's books then I would suggest you do that so you know what to and what not to say. I agree with the others that you should keep away from discussing religion. I would continue to do what you are doing so you can have some type of relationship with her.
My husband told his mom who is in her mid 80's and has been in since she was a little girl that he no longer believed it was the "truth". He told her that if she asked him questions he was going to tell her the truth and if she talked about her religion then he had the right to talk about how he felt. She has not shunned him but their relationship has changed. She never brings up the religion so therefore he never talks about the lies of the WTS.
There are ways to get around not answering her directly and use the reverse of their "theocratic warefare". I would have no problem not answering her or changing the subject. I liked what someone else wrote that they are the apostates according to their definition because of all of their false teachings, so you aren't reading the WT and Awake so you aren't reading apostate books and magazines.
I hope it all works out for you and you can resume some kind of a relationship with her.
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Where Do You Shop For Good Deals/Lower Prices?
by minimus ini know some people swear by ebay.. i like to actually see the product i am buying.
i'm not a big internet shopper.. places like job lots or discount stores like dollar tree are what i usually like.
k&g men's clothes and dsw shoes are other great spots to get big discounts.. where do you shop?.
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Aunt Fancy
I love Costcos too but I do not buy a lot of clothes there.
I love DSW for shoes
I shop a lot on Amazon and E-Bay too
I am not big on the dollar stores
I love internet sales because you can find some great bargins for quality merchandise
We have a lot of outlet stores within and hour of us going north and south but they can be deceiving because sometimes they are the same price as the stores
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Do You Try To Avoid The Witnesses When You See Them?
by minimus ini think i typically don't want to be either love bombed or questioned.
i happen to see jws a lot while visiting my mom.
they don't go there with me, which works well for all concerned..
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Aunt Fancy
We have faded but they still come to our door and neither of us will answer the door to them. I very rarely see them when I am out running errands or shopping. I did see one the other day in the drs office and she wanted to avoid me but she had to walk past me and I put on a big smile and said hi. She said hi back but was very uncomfortable. I honestly don't care to talk to most of them anymore especially if they bring up anything to do with their religion. I feel great about my choice and I don't care to hear any religion speaches.
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Born-In Girls--Did You Have a Doll at KH
by Band on the Run inwhen i was preschool, i had several dolls.
meetings were so hard at that age.
in fact, they were agony my entire life.
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Aunt Fancy
I have only seen it once and they would bring coloring books, snacks and other things. He is an elder now and at the time a MS but she was newly baptized.
We did have a sister who was a pioneer and elders wife who brought her lap top to the meeting to do work. She would set it up in one of the extra rooms and sit there during the meeting. She was on call with her job from what I understand but boy did they get the complaints about it. She kept doing it but finally stopped and I am sure it was the CO who put an end to it.
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CO's & DO's age 70+ to be laid off on 9/1/14
by williamhconley inin a private conversation with a c.o.
friend from north carolina, he told me yesterday that they just got a letter that all traveling overseers (do's & co's) age 70 & up are going to be laid off on 09/01/2014.
they will be asssigned to local congregations and further details are pending.. .
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Aunt Fancy
4thgen, I don't think they all make out like that because there are areas of the country where they get very little. The area where I live they are very generous and they probably get even more than $300 a visit. One CO loved the congregation I use to be in because they were very generous. He even instructed us from the platform to give to the CO's, DO's and Bethel speakers. One time we gave some money to the DO and we got a pre-printed thank you note that was a picture of his wife and him. I really thought it was arrogant the way he did it.
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Head covering for women--how did you feel about this? Men? Women?
by humbled inthinking about how this felt awkward to some of us women when a bible student noticed something was "up" if a baptised brother sat in on a study.
had to reference 1 cor.
11:1-16.. i wonder if this irked any while you were still in?.
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I too hated it. I kept one in my service bag but I don't remember using it much. They will do anything to make another person feel like crap. It always bothered me because again it was an outdated custom and a way to belittle women.
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I should'nt let them get to me, but.......
by quellycatface in.
one day, i'll have the courage to ask why she looks at me like that..
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Aunt Fancy
I am sorry you had to go through that, it does not feel good when it happens. Hold your head high and smile and say hi. I have faded for 19 months and yesterday was the first time I have had face to face shunning. Recently there has been gossip spread about me because I deleted all JW's from my FB account. I was in a doctors office and I have talked to the doctor very openly about walking away from the JW's and he was a source of support for me. I walked out from having a massage and their was a JW at the front desk and the employee greated me. At first I didn't notice the JW standing there but I kept my eye on her to see what would happen and she finally looked at me and I very happily said Hi with a big smile and she barly said hi and walked away. I thought I would be crushed but I felt ok after. I think I am at the point where it doesn't matter to me any longer. Everyone of my "friends" are long gone so I have accepted it and moved on.
Hang in there. It will get better, it just takes time and each of us handles it differently.
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hello
by fakefading inhello my fellow "apostates".
just wanted to say hi.
i'm still in the borg but mentally out.
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Aunt Fancy
Welcome, I am happy to hear you have a college education because so many don't and it can make life even harder. Do things at the pace you feel comfortble with. I was in 30 years and my husband was a born in for 58 years. I was the one who started to read and question things but I immediately told him everything I was finding out. I do not hold back with him. LOL! I was able to get him to read Crisis of Conscience and it changed his life. Since then we have both read many of the EX - JW books and Steven Hassen's books.
For some reason it never dawned on me when I started this journey that my husband would not follow. He was an elder for many years and being raised in it plus they have 5 & 6 generations of JW's in his family. He actually was seeing things but just hadn't put it together. He was researching some subjects that his bible study's wife asked him and he could not find the answers for her because they were false teachings.
One thing that is so positive in your life is you are young without children at this point. Hopefully, you will be able to get your wife out so you don't end up divorced. Hang in there because this is a tough journey but life sure looks much better on the outside. Our life has been the best it ever has been.
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Has anyone ever used a NONO??
by DATA-DOG injust curious.
i hate shaving, ect.
ummm..errr...i mean "my friend" was asking about this device.
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Aunt Fancy
I just bought their competition and I have tried it once. It makes your eyes water!! Sugering is almost the same thing as waxing. All three of them sting when you use them. My understanding is that the longer you use one of these methods the less the sting gets.